They say love is one of the hardest words to translate. The Greeks had four different words for love. Since the beginning of civilization we have all been interconnected by a feeling we can not resist, in fact, we probably never would have survived without some sort of cavewoman maternal love, whether it’s blood or romance, we love one another and search for others to love. If we are so drawn to connect and protect through love you have to wonder why women in particular find little love for themselves.
The goal of Project Heart Yourself is to promote self esteem in women I want to extend the challenge from loving yourself to loving others around us, women in our lives in particular.
Studies have shown that women share more about their bodies and are inclined to speak negatively about themselves in group settings. When this happens our natural female tendencies are to agree and attempt to put ourselves on the same level, thus talking negatively about ourselves as well (thank you sophomore gender studies class). I see this all the time in the women around me. Sometimes just being aware of the negative comments without even participating in the conversation is enough to affect my mood.
So stop bringing yourself down, stop bringing others down, stop bringing yourself down to meet others that are also down. Do not agree with negativity, instead chose something positive, something kind to say.
Here's an example, because it's hard:
Sarah: "I ate way too much over the holidays, now I just feel huge, I should start a diet tomorrow."
Jenny: "Have you seen that buzzfeed article with the women of all sizes doing yoga? Really shows that all bodies are beautiful"
Be kind. Be kind to yourself and to others around you and you will start to love yourself more, love others more and they will love you in return. It’s our human tendency, we can’t help it. We can chose to be negative or we can choose kindness and spread some more love this season.
"My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness" The Dalai Lama XIV
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