Choose Love, Be Kind

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They say love is one of the hardest words to translate. The Greeks had four different words for love.  Since the beginning of civilization we have all been interconnected by a feeling we can not resist, in fact, we probably never would have survived without some sort of cavewoman maternal love, whether it’s blood or romance, we love one another and search for others to love. If we are so drawn to connect and protect through love you have to wonder why women in particular find little love for themselves.

The goal of Project Heart Yourself is to promote self esteem in women I want to extend the challenge from loving yourself to loving others around us, women in our lives in particular.

Studies have shown that women share more about their bodies and are inclined to speak negatively about themselves in group settings. When this happens our natural female tendencies are to agree and attempt to put ourselves on the same level, thus talking negatively about ourselves as well (thank you sophomore gender studies class). I see this all the time in the women around me. Sometimes just being aware of the negative comments without even participating in the conversation is enough to affect my mood.

So stop bringing yourself down, stop bringing others down, stop bringing yourself down to meet others that are also down. Do not agree with negativity, instead chose something positive, something kind to say.

Here's an example, because it's hard:

Sarah:  "I ate way too much over the holidays, now I just feel huge, I should start a diet tomorrow."

Jenny: "Have you seen that buzzfeed article  with the women of all sizes doing yoga? Really shows that all bodies are beautiful" 

Be kind. Be kind to yourself and to others around you and you will start to love yourself more, love others more and they will love you in return. It’s our human tendency, we can’t help it. We can chose to be negative or we can choose kindness and spread some more love this season.

"My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness" The Dalai Lama XIV

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WANT NEED WEAR READ

You might of heard of this little trick when it comes to giving to kids but we are going to spin it a little for a holiday guide for you. 

WANT

This is a major want. The gold diamond bliss bar screams perfection. It's subtle yet stunning with just a hint of bling and the gold just glimmers under all the holiday lights! It warms the skin tone and goes with pretty much every outfit, how could this necklace not be pure bliss?

NEED

photo:  marissa_collections  via flickr cc

photo: marissa_collections via flickr cc

Most of us need coffee to survive especially during the busy holidays. We love supporting small coffee roasters that care about the quality as well as the world we live in. A favorite is Counter Culture Coffee. They spread all sorts of good karma around their and their farmer's community and they provide a seriously good direct trade bean, try their Holiday Blend for your morning caffeinated kick.

WEAR

Braids, braids, braids! Frozen brought it back in a big way but these beauties are here to stay. Check out the lovely Confessions of a Hairstylist for all sorts of braid do's, tricks and tips like this double french braid. She has easy to follow youtube videos that will ensure inspiration for every holiday party you head to (pun intended).

READ

photo:  weelittlepiggy  via flickr cc

photo: weelittlepiggy via flickr cc

Do yourself a favor and before the final movie comes out next year lose yourself in these books. As per usual, the movie can not possibly fit in every single thing that the book does (but the movies still do a fantastic job). These books will take over your life for a few weeks so be willing to lose your smart phone and give in. You will not be sorry, you will be enthralled and maybe even willing to volunteer for tribute (or just washing dishes) yourself.